MOTHERHOOD

  MOTHERHOOD

Who is a mother?

The meaning of being a mother is virtually endless. A mother is a protector, disciplinarian and friend. A mother is a selfless, loving human who must sacrifice many of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children. A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being. Being a mother is perhaps the hardest, most rewarding job a woman will ever experience.

What is motherhood?

Motherhood is the state of being a mother.

A person enters motherhood when they become a mother. This most commonly happens when their child is born, but it can also happen through adoption or by marrying or becoming a partner to someone with children.

Motherhood is a gender-specific version of the term parenthood.

Less commonly, motherhood can refer to all mothers collectively, as in you won’t find a better mom in all of motherhood.

 

The Roles of a Mother

 Childbearing: Childbearing is the primary and sole responsibility of a mother, as she is the only one who can bear a child.

Catering for the children: Upon Childbearing, it is the responsibility of the mother to cater to such a child. She is solely responsible for breastfeeding that Child, and also as the child grows she still exercises the responsibility of taking care of the child, carrying the child, and feeding the child. The same responsibility is still applicable to a mother when she has more than one Child

Laundry: This is another traditional responsibility and role of a mother in a family, as from time immemorial it is the mother that does the laundry, especially that for her children.

Teaching the children: This is an important role of a mother in the family. In the process of nurturing the Children, the mother ought to teach her children how to behave properly, how to be responsible and how to indulge in all aforementioned house chores, from cooking, to how to wash their clothes, to how to wash their plates, amongst others.

Caring: In most instances, a Mother is caring. Hence, it is usually her responsibility to exercise care not just for her children, but for guests in the house. That’s why most often when a Family receives a visitor; it is usually the mother who runs around gathering refreshments and food which such visitor will consume.

Emotional bond: The mother is usually close to her child. Hence, she builds a strong emotional bond with such Child and it is, therefore, her duty to inculcate that Child with value, moral principles, and nurture them properly into their environment.

Keeping the Family Together: With the uprising in divorce cases and judicial separation all over the world, the role of a mother has stepped up as she can now help bring unity and keep the family together through bonding with her children, submitting to her husband, and Childbearing. Childbearing is a very essential tool of curbing divorce and keeping the family together, as most often the husband will have a double mind with respect to the welfare of their children if there will be a separation, and because of these Children, he will remain committed to the marriage.

 

THE CHALLENGES AND HOW TO OVERCOME THE CHALLENGES OF MOTHERHOOD 

Sleep Deprived

I know I know! You are sleep deprived. You are making sure that your baby sleeps with a smile. But when you try to hit the sack, you suddenly hear baby cries. You need to get up and sing a lullaby to your baby. Sweet enough for the onlookers this repetitive cycle can be very tiresome and might even take a toll on the mother’s health.

If being a mother is bliss, then getting solution to the related challenges is a boon. You must seek help. Not sleeping is not possible and might lead to abrupt mood swings. Continuous lack in sleep can also lead to mental and emotional disturbances. You need to make sure to ask for help.

Ask your friend, a family member, or trustworthy neighbor to spend some time with the baby and till then you must sleep. Sleeping in bits and snatches can also make up

Breastfeeding Problems

You are not used to it! You never had a baby and the baby doesn’t know anything either. What to do now? Breastfeeding is one of the most common problems every new mother goes through. Many problems like generation of milk, baby not latching, painful feeding, and others arise. But, you simply cannot stop the process.

In this case, you need to see a latching consultant or should ask an experienced mother for help. You must talk it out and call them when trying to breastfeed the baby. They’ll be able to notice the flaws or the problems and can help you. Take your time in excelling in this and let the experts guide you. Sometimes, you just more time to get used to it.

Lack of ‘ME’ Time

After giving birth to a baby, you are going to miss your ‘ME’ time with your friends and family. And, you must get prepared for the same. Do not get scared! You can still have the time of your life with a baby besides you.

Try inviting your friends home. They are your friends, so they should better understand your state. If you want to go out, look for places you can take your baby along. A lot of mothers do this and this doesn’t let your ‘ME’ time go in waste.

Also, ask your husband or a family member to babysit for sometime. There might be lesser occasions than before, but you won’t regret it. Also, you must consider meeting friends who already have kids or are about to. They’ll understand your part and won’t press you down for anything`    

You Feel Out of Shape

 marks and the stubborn fat! You do not feel like being in your own skin. You feel like an unknown person altogether. And, watching television and celebrities with the perfect body shape after giving birth to babies adds a lot more to existing breakdown.

But, it is okay! It takes around a year to get back in shape with mild regular workout. Prior to that, you need that extra fat, to be true. You need it to be energetic and keep the baby healthy with all the proper nutrition.

Even a personal trainer and full-time babysitter can’t fetch those luring results instantly, but that doesn’t mean you lose hope and stop try. Do whatever you want even; what if you’re the mother of a toddler? Just keep following the tiny bits and you’ll be there.

P.S. Do not forget the motherly glow that you’ll get on your skin!

It Pains 

After going through an extensive pain, everything seems uncontrollable. You feel that you won’t be able to get out of the pain and it’ll stay with you forever. After going through c-section, surgeries, vaginal stitches, etc., you barely feel in a good state. That hurts.

However, you’ll be fine. All this is temporary and the pain will go away. In case of extreme discomfort, visiting your gynecologist is recommended. Also, ice packs and medicinal pads are prescribed for initial days; they can bring relief.

Baby Blues

You are hormonal which making you low every now & then. This feeling is termed as “baby blues”. You’ll feel like being stuck in something that doesn’t seem to end. Progesterone levels will decrease and you will be acquainted with mood swings.

And, all this with lack of sleep will mess up things.

Don’t worry it’s a matter of a couple of weeks. With support of family and friends, you can get through. There are many online & offline communities and forums too that help new moms feel good. Do not worry, you are not alone.

Ambiguity about What the Baby Wants

You’ll have to deal with this one, but again, just for some time. Your kid won’t say thanks to you every time you are cleaning his face or wiping his poop. The baby won’t tell you whether he/she needs food or wants some warmth. Baby will just cry & you’ll have to figure out the reason. This might sound so difficult to you, doesn’t it?

“It gets better,” they say. Yes, It will. You’ll ultimately know what your baby wants for the moment. You get to know some fixed expressions and conditions that help you get through it. After all, you have gave birth to the baby so you’ll eventually get acquainted with his quirks and expressions. That’s why, it is said that mothers know their kids the best.

 

“Motherhood takes a lot of sacfices, endurance, and strength to overcome difficulties/challenges to raise children”

“Motherhood encompasses all the struggles and hardship of a woman, including positive and negative aspects”

Every mother is a goddess

 Every mother is very special 

 Every mother is powerful 

  Every mother  is a teacher

Every mother is a protector

 

   

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